tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057665144755727599.post5660738588233673236..comments2020-07-21T04:19:07.789-07:00Comments on Modern Mothercraft: "Leaning in" in practice - how on earth to do it?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057665144755727599.post-11448026309924289822015-10-23T02:34:44.201-07:002015-10-23T02:34:44.201-07:00Thanks for the comment, I totally agree with your ...Thanks for the comment, I totally agree with your post!MMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03602686148167057798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057665144755727599.post-63365265170473506162015-10-23T01:08:46.445-07:002015-10-23T01:08:46.445-07:00I have been following your blog for a while and fu...I have been following your blog for a while and funnily enough spotted this post in your 'popular posts' literally a day after I started reading 'Lean In'. I'm only one chapter in and I must say I disagree with her statistic quoting. She believes that 50% of all seats in Parliament should be held by women and 50% of CEOs should be woman. I agree with everything mentioned in the first paragraph in your post however, until men are giving birth to 50% of the babies, I just don't see how this can be true. Something changes in you when you have a baby and it seems to effect women at a physical or instinctual level. Many men too, I'm sure, but definitely women. My entire being is now split and my son holds a good chunk of me. And maybe that chuck is the part of me that didn't mind committing myself wholeheartedly to my job, never being able to switch off completely from my work. But now that he has that chunk my mind is always just a little bit on him. And when I get home from work and I see that gorgeous smile the last thing I want to do is check my emails. Never in a million years would 'pre-baby me' ever have thought I would feel this way.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07983233729328806575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057665144755727599.post-57048759113125374452014-04-09T13:13:22.174-07:002014-04-09T13:13:22.174-07:00Anon, you raise a good point, but you miss the fac...Anon, you raise a good point, but you miss the fact that most employers are not willing or able to let mums return to the same position with the same career trajectory. For most women, the choice to have children and have a hand in raising them effectively kills most careers. Gaps on CVs are almost always eyed suspiciously, even if there is a legitimate reason for them. Motherhood requires more organisational skill and stress management technique than my old job in administration ever did, but prospective employers only saw my child and therefore how "unreliable" I would no doubt prove to be.<br /><br />It's often the mother who cares for the sick child who cannot go to creche/school. It's often the mother who does the shopping and cooking and laundering. Many of us continue to do these chores because it is easier (in the short run) for us to do them as opposed to getting into a battle with our partners and becoming the nag we promised ourselves we would never be. We choose to stay home and do this work during the day, because if we left it until after work, we would NEVER EVER sleep and be cranky messes.<br /><br />The problem with leaning in as Sandberg proposes is that it is only feasible for a very small percentage of the working population that also has the financial wherewithall to hire help where needed.<br />Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05260002534294993201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057665144755727599.post-48462464288832325612014-04-08T22:57:14.131-07:002014-04-08T22:57:14.131-07:00No one seems to mention the later retirement age. ...No one seems to mention the later retirement age. <br />The posters here are have young children, what will you do when they are teens? Won't you then want a career, do you think you will still be content with an undemanding job in 10, 15 year's time?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057665144755727599.post-49653648676217435792014-04-07T14:42:16.934-07:002014-04-07T14:42:16.934-07:00I guess that's the conclusion that many women ...I guess that's the conclusion that many women come to in the end, and I am guessing I will too. The thing I'm finding is all of this talk about getting ahead doesn't work for me when all I want in the workforce is not to go backwards! MMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03602686148167057798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057665144755727599.post-11443986425970389512014-04-07T05:52:20.667-07:002014-04-07T05:52:20.667-07:00Leaning in actually just made me fall over when I ...Leaning in actually just made me fall over when I had kids. I had to unlearn my dutiful, get it all done mentality, and learn to take naps in the days, watch telly and generally do less at all times. It was only then that I found the mental capacity to even think about going back to work. I was a "high achiever" before having kids - degree, scholarships, blah blah. All this hard work actually achieved was to make me a VERY ANGRY stay at home mum when I found I couldn't do everything. leaning out - a lot - was necessary after all the pressure I'd put myself under. I now work full time with a five and eight year old and have done for two years, but I doubt I'll ever have the career I envisaged for myself before I had them - and I wouldn't want it either. I love leaving work at 6 going home to a family meal, not working weekends, and taking time off in the holidays. Work isn't everything, and I just think that more women are willing to acknowledge this and actually have a much better balance in their lives. Juliethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17771202522079431651noreply@blogger.com